Certain decisions in life require more thought than others. Whether to have chocolate cake or chocolate ice cream doesn’t matter a whole lot ~ unless you are like me and you want to get the maximum enjoyment from what you are eating to make sure the calories are totally worth it. THEN whether to eat chocolate cake or chocolate ice cream can be very important! Otherwise, those type of decisions are made and we move on to the next one. Other decisions, like where to live, where to work, whom to marry, when to buy property or others are life-changing and will have a great impact on our future. We can all agree that those decisions should not be taken lightly.
What is the best way to make a life decision?
I don’t recommend flipping a coin. That’s rather irresponsible and is kind of close to not making a decision at all. God has given us not only a brain, but also a heart and a soul to help us make important decisions.
When you think about a situation, some people make a list of PROS and CONS, meaning to consider good points and bad points (for or against) going in a certain direction. Making this list will help clarify what you like and what you don’t like about the options. Of course, you also have to weigh not just the number of points; but how relevant each point is. For example, a pro might be “I will make more money” but the con might be “I will have to move”. Obviously making more money is nice, but you also have to consider where the move would take you and if that is within your level of acceptance. You might make a lot of money working in Iceland, but would you really want to move there? You get my point? So start with a list of pros and cons.
When making a life decision, think of others who can discuss the situation objectively. You don’t want to make a decision based purely on emotions. Think of a person that you respect and then ask them their opinion. Many times this will help you discover what you really want to do.
Consider the circumstances and analyze how favorable they are. If you want to be a neurosurgeon, but have never taken any science classes and you hate the sight of blood, then you really need to re-think what you want to do, because the circumstances are not favorable.
All the time while you are listing the PROS and CONS, while you are seeking the counsel of a friend, family member or mentor, while you are analyzing your circumstances, always pray and seek God. The fact that HE created you makes him infinitely superior to guide your path to the best decision. Just knowing that God has a plan will give you confidence and will carry you when the future seems uncertain. You can be certain God is in control and that those who trust Him will not be put to shame.
God bless you, because making life decisions will in many ways determine not only who I am, but also who I will become!
No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame. Psalm 25:3
I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. Psalm 119:10
When the disciples of Jesus asked him to teach them to pray, Jesus replied:
5-13 “And then, when you pray, don’t be like the play-actors. They love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at street-corners so that people may see them at it. Believe me, they have had all the reward they are going to get. But when you pray, go into your own room, shut your door and pray to your Father privately. Your Father who sees all private things will reward you. And when you pray don’t rattle off long prayers like the pagans who think they will be heard because they use so many words. Don’t be like them. After all, God, who is your Father, knows your needs before you ask him. Pray then like this—
‘Our Heavenly Father, may your name be honored;
May your kingdom come, and your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day the bread we need.
Forgive us what we owe to you (our sins), as we have also forgiven those who owe anything to us (those who have sinned against us).
Keep us clear of temptation, and save us from evil.’ Matthew 6:5-13
24 The Lord bless you and keep you:
25 The Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you:
26 The Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.